Start with the help you actually have
List the recurring commitments that are hardest to cover: an early shift, school collection, an appointment, or a weekend activity. Ask for a specific task and time rather than a general promise to help.
Give each handoff enough detail
Share the pickup location, who will collect the child, and how to reach you if plans change. Keep the school’s authorized-pickup information current through the school’s own process. A calendar entry does not replace that permission.
Make the fallback visible
Decide what happens if a helper is late or unavailable. A second contact and a clear reply deadline can spare everyone a last-minute search through old messages. Keep sensitive information limited to the people who need it.
Use CoFam at your own pace
You can organize the schedule and children’s details before an invited co-parent joins. Add helpers when useful and check their app permissions first. Family access depends on the chosen plan, and an invitation becomes an accepted membership only when the person joins.
Must both parents join immediately?
No. You can begin setup and send an invitation for the other person to accept later.
Does a helper need financial access?
Not necessarily. CoFam’s non-parent roles have more limited access than parent and step-parent roles.
Bring your agreed care dates and family details together. → Family setup in CoFam