Make the next week clear
Write down where the kids will sleep, who is doing each pickup, and the time and place of the next exchange. Include a backup contact. Mark undecided dates as undecided so nobody mistakes a suggestion for a settled plan.
Choose one place for logistics
Agree where a schedule request belongs and how you will confirm it. A message such as “Can you collect Ella at 3:15 on Thursday? Please let me know by Tuesday evening” is easier to answer than an open-ended discussion about who does more.
Leave room for questions
The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends explaining changes simply, reassuring children that the separation is not their fault, and keeping them out of adult disagreements. Read its guidance on helping children adjust.
Put the agreed details in CoFam
Add your family’s schedule and children’s contact details, then invite your co-parent to join with their own account. Keep a proposed change separate from an agreement. Use CoFam to keep the agreed dates visible to both homes.
What should we set up first?
The next few days of care, pickup details, and a reliable way to reach each other.
Do we need to decide every holiday now?
You can organize the immediate schedule while separately working through longer-term arrangements and any requirements in your existing order.
Bring your agreed care dates and family details together. → Family setup in CoFam